Q: My significant other complains I only dress up to go out and he gets left with the tomboy leftovers at home - wearing a hat, jeans and no makeup. I admit I need to jazz it up at home and take it from “sweet” to “sexy” but am not sure where to start. Should I dress up everyday or just start in the bedroom?
Most people feel that when they get home after a long day or on the weekend, they just want to relax in their comfy, familiar clothes. But that doesn’t mean you should look like an unmade bed! While many partners don’t care how their significant other looks when they’re at home the point here is, yours does. What’s more, he’s said so. It isn’t a compliment to your partner if you feel it doesn’t matter how rough and unkempt you look at home and only make an effort when you go out. It says you don’t care about him and his feelings. And I’m sure you do. It also says you don’t take pride in yourself.
So perhaps it’s time to assess your image. If your home clothes are shabby, grubby, worn or torn – toss them out. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to endlessly “dress up”. Go shopping. Stores everywhere are filled with great, inexpensive casual clothes you can still feel comfortable in and look stylish. Then start a regular routine of personal grooming including putting on some makeup every morning, including weekends, such as blush, mascara, gloss or lipstick. Get your hair cut and styled professionally so it’s easy to take care of daily. It will make you feel good about yourself - half the battle of overcoming personal apathy.
If you want to boost the relationship even more, it certainly helps to spice things up in the bedroom with some sexy lingerie, candles and, especially, enthusiasm.
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Q: What can I do to help my man last a bit longer during sex?
I presume you’re asking abut premature ejaculation? I also presume you’re both young (you don’t say) as it is considered to be mainly a young man’s problem. Men generally last longer and become better lovers are they age. It’s a lack of control and is associated with inexperience and anxiety or perhaps wanting to get the sex act finished quickly.
The problem is that if early orgasm is how your man started off experiencing sex, he may have difficulty changing matters.
It can also make it more difficult for the male if his partner takes a long time to become fully aroused and this should be addressed as well if you’re experiencing difficulty.
The good news, however, is that premature ejaculation is one of the easier sex problems to improve.
For a start, you can certainly help him (and maybe yourself?) by extending mutual foreplay and, for instance, giving each other sensual massages first. If he feels that an orgasm is about to happen, then he should let you know and you can give him the “squeeze method” to stop ejaculation.This is a proven technique where you firmly grasp the penis around its head with your forefingers and thumb. When he signals he’s close to ejaculation, you squeeze hard for five seconds.
His erection may go down a little but you can massage him more until he gets it back.
Then you can move onto intercourse – the best method for this problem is for you to be on top and you can climb off if he feels he is about to climax and try the squeeze method again. Then go on top again and gently enjoy intercourse for at least 15 minutes and then he can be allowed to ejaculate. This will makes him feel he can last longer and will restore confidence in himself.
If, however, the problem is acute and this method doesn’t work, there are medications that can control anxiety and slow down ejaculation. He should then go to his physician or a men’s clinic for help.
